"Do you think you could put that thing on
"Do you mean the kerchief?"
"Why, are you embarrassed by Mommy's buzz
cut? I thought you liked it."
"Well, the kids were asking if my dad was
married to another dad?"
The husband and I
burst out laughing and then proceeded to get the real story.
Really...we laughed....it was funny!
Before I go on, let me first say that I
am open to all types of relationships. One of our favorite
books is this one that talks about all types of families, those
with a mom and dad, those with one parent, those with two moms
or two dads, and our favorite, those who became families through
So, the story: We went to pick E up at
school and when we were about to drop him off at acrobats, he
then asked me to wear my kerchief....
We questioned the accuracy of the story
because there was no way he had time to have this conversation
with his friends after he saw me because he hopped right into
the car...AND, I was a bit defensive because I had my make-up,
sunglasses and big ole earrings on...I was trying...
The real (what we could decipher) story
E was telling his friends that I shaved
my head and that started some confusion (quite possibly in the
way E articulated the story) and then one of his friends said,
"What? I'm confused....Is your dad married to another dad?" I
think the truth of the matter is that E is perfectly fine with
me walking around the house with my buzz cut, but publicly, he's
just not there yet, and me, well, I'm not really sure that I am
quite ready either.
Another side note: I'd also like to
point out that I am perfectly comfortable with girls who are not
so into the "typical" look...girls who may choose to
buzz their hair and/or wear less jewelry and no skirts... I'm
good with that. Be who you are and be comfortable with it! I
think there are many beautiful people out there and they don't
all fit into the "typical" box....life would be boring and too
predictable if that were the case. Can buzz cuts be beautiful and feminine? Absolutely! I think this previous post already addressed that.
The thing is...I lean towards the more
predictable, safe look... I like to wear skirts,
lipstick, and jewelry, and I'm not yet 100% comfortable in my
buzz cut. It's hard for me to step out of the box with my look
(hello?...I don't like to order from a drive thru, remember?), although I'm beginning to see the possibilities.
It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.