"Do you think you could put that thing on your head?"
"Do you mean the kerchief?"
"Why, are you embarrassed by Mommy's buzz cut? I thought you liked it."
"Well, the kids were asking if my dad was married to another dad?"
The husband and I burst out laughing and then proceeded to get the real story. Really...we laughed....it was funny!
Before I go on, let me first say that I am open to all types of relationships. One of our favorite books is this one that talks about all types of families, those with a mom and dad, those with one parent, those with two moms or two dads, and our favorite, those who became families through adoption.
So, the story: We went to pick E up at school and when we were about to drop him off at acrobats, he then asked me to wear my kerchief....
We questioned the accuracy of the story because there was no way he had time to have this conversation with his friends after he saw me because he hopped right into the car...AND, I was a bit defensive because I had my make-up, sunglasses and big ole earrings on...I was trying...
The real (what we could decipher) story is:
E was telling his friends that I shaved my head and that started some confusion (quite possibly in the way E articulated the story) and then one of his friends said, "What? I'm confused....Is your dad married to another dad?" I think the truth of the matter is that E is perfectly fine with me walking around the house with my buzz cut, but publicly, he's just not there yet, and me, well, I'm not really sure that I am quite ready either.
Another side note: I'd also like to point out that I am perfectly comfortable with girls who are not so into the "typical" look...girls who may choose to buzz their hair and/or wear less jewelry and no skirts... I'm good with that. Be who you are and be comfortable with it! I think there are many beautiful people out there and they don't all fit into the "typical" box....life would be boring and too predictable if that were the case. Can buzz cuts be beautiful and feminine? Absolutely! I think this previous post already addressed that.
The thing is...I lean towards the more predictable, safe look... I like to wear skirts, lipstick, and jewelry, and I'm not yet 100% comfortable in my buzz cut. It's hard for me to step out of the box with my look (hello?...I don't like to order from a drive thru, remember?), although I'm beginning to see the possibilities.
It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.